Conflict between styles of aid to education

(South Dakota)

Me and my spouse, everyone entering in our relationship with four children of our own, no doubt have a plein.Nous House have a conflict between parenting styles that starts to cause problems.

My spouse, is a more passive parent, "softie" as some say.It is the father who avoids conflict, regardless of whether it as the enclosure or consequence; it is much easier to make children folle.Sa philosophy, "If nobody is argumentative, the House is quiet." It is not generally a bad philosophy...

I on the other hand, I am the parent "stand your ground". I tell my children not, it makes them mad.They receive it.But I know that I said not for a specific reason .j ' had my 14-year-old son tell me before bed, "MOM, I don't like you right now, but I still love you."My answer to that was, "" I love you honey, too, and I don't expect you to love me all the time. ""I have a good relationship with my children (age 18, 16, 14, 12), they speak to me, I speak to them... things are good.

The problem is inconsistent discipline that we have in the House... my children are invited to make simple chores, do the dishes, for example, do not say, it is demandé.Ils know also that the dishes are a responsibility their... and if responsibilities are not fulfilled, just like in adult life, there is therefore, conséquencespar if you do your dishes on your nuit.compter all pastimes activities out for the next day... clear and simple... the rules are clear cut, the consequences are consistent... and I rarely have a problem.

My spouse on the other hand, when his children (age 16, 14, 12-5) are invited to do the dishes (of course 5 year by drying aid cups and because he chooses and they have something better to do, what they are allowed to put off dishes until later in the evening, or even sometimes provided in a day.)

The conflict between styles parenting is creating serious conflicts between my spouse and I and mine conflicts between children.... wonder why do not have her children to do their chores, while her children think that I "graduated from middle school dictionary with honours.".

I spoke to my spouse, we tried the two giving a little bit, me being are not as stringent and him being stricter.... it works for some time, but goes to the same thing several times.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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