No potential step-child relation

by Michelle
(Hereford, UK)

My fiancé and I were together for 3 years, engaged in most of the who also. There a girl 7 years a previous relationship, its former partners decided to not tell him that she had just off the pill to fall pregnant and her recovery staying in their tumultuous relationship that was essentially that it became trapped by becoming a father on his last legs.

I congratulate them for only works do not far from his daughter, it is a good father and spent much time with it.If I thought it was a good father, then I would step considers him a father for the children, I would have myself.

We supported, not much, on the fact, in the 3 years that we were together that I spent every 4 hours, maximum, in his company. In this little time, we had a whale time together and all the way back, that it was unable to stop telling her father that she loved me, and he could not wait to see me at new .when ' she got home and her mother asked her how she likes to spend time with me, she has done what I believe all children would attempt to protect the feelings of his mother, and view fidelity to his mother saying she loved me.

I always ask him, get concerned if it is ill, when she was being bullied in his previous school my gut reaction was upset to it and want to do something to sort.
My fiancé had a poor relationship with his father and his mother-step was the typical "witch evil", we mean parler.Mes parents were divorced and entered in loving relationships and my step-parents are wonderful.

I want to have a relationship with her daughter, because I believe that our relationship can progress without involving him and I want to be there for it should never need me.We talked about marriage and children, but I think if we do this without involving him, I would finally be seen as the 'baddy' in the relationship that took away his papa.Je also believe that our potential and future marriage and children will not revert never if this is the case.

My fiancé asked her if she would like to spend time with me, but she always said that non.principalement because our House has not all things, we have no children as neighbours, we do not Sky TV, etc... I can't believe giving a 7 year old too many choices, how it expects it accept me as his partner wife and future if she never sees me? &, 7, is it really capable of taking such a decision? I mean, if she told me to the 13/14/15 years, that she wants to see me or spend time with me, I am that take at face value and appreciate his honesty, even if it mal.Mais 7, children should not be seen reign free to decide that they do/don't want to do, should they?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

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